November may not have gone as I (and millions of other smart and sensible Americans) had desired, but April brings renewed hope. We stood up to the bully and won. Wisconsin cannot be bought.

I’m pretty proud of my adopted state. I’ve lived in both deep red and the bluest of blue states, but purple is new to me, so you never really know how things are going to shake out. Thankfully, Susan Crawford prevailed. Predictably, MAGA is suggesting the whole thing was rigged. Geez Louise, they are the sorriest bunch of poor sport losers I’ve ever seen. The integrity of elections is never questioned when they win and immediately questioned when they lose. Cry me a river.

There does seem to be a shift toward blue in America’s Dairyland. Let’s keep the momentum going!


When you’ve been married for awhile, it’s hard to surprise (or be surprised by) your partner. So, when I got home on Wednesday and discovered candles, jazz music, a chilled bottle of wine, and a delicious feast, to say I was caught off guard is an understatement. Ribeye steaks; shrimp cocktail; garlic bread; a fresh salad with pecans, Craisins, goat cheese fritters, and a creamy dijon vinaigrette. Even a slice of red velvet cake to share. I thought I’d wandered into the wrong house for a second.

It had been a particularly stressful commuting day. We awoke to heavy rain and thunderstorms that morning, so my drive into Madison demanded caution. Luckily, traffic on the Beltline was still flowing smoothly.

View of the Beltline from a CheeseGov conference room.

Coming home was another story. But this had nothing to do with the weather, as the sun was shining by then.

I drive to/from work on Highway 12, which narrows to two lanes once you get outside of Madison. It’s a bucolic drive (other than the landfill), and rarely busy, but could use a few passing lanes. If you get behind a slow driver, you’re stuck unless you can find a gap in oncoming traffic.

I hate this maneuver, by the way. Flooring it and zipping around a car into potential oncoming traffic is not my jam. I’ll go miles hoping the slowpoke will take the next exit before even thinking about trying to pass.

There are also frequent accidents along Highway 12, and I wouldn’t be surprised if many of them involve people trying to pass. When a cadre of emergency vehicles flew by with sirens blaring, I knew that was going to slow things down. What I did not expect was to find the highway completely closed in both directions a mile ahead. This forced me, and by now a long line of cars, to turn around and find an alternate route home. Because this had never happened before, I was afraid I’d have to backtrack all the way to the Beltline and hop on Interstate 90, which would have added a ton of time to my commute. Fortunately, Google Maps routed me onto a bumpy country road that runs parallel to Highway 12, and I was eventually able to reconnect once I’d gotten past the roadblock. Which was quite extensive, it turns out. I have no idea what happened and never saw the actual wreck, but I imagine it wasn’t pretty.

Suffice it to say, finding such a sweet surprise awaiting me when I got home was very welcome. And rare. I’ll put it this way: we have never had a candlelight dinner since moving into our house. I don’t think we ever had one in the Rapid City house either. We rarely even eat at the dining room table.

Tara did good!


I love reading, but I’m not good at it.

Let me rephrase: I’m not good at reading a lot of books quickly, like some of my friends. Prolific isn’t my middle name (it’s Thomas). I participate in the Goodreads Reading Challenge every year, but my goals are very modest. I fell one short in 2024, and barely hit my goal the preceding few years.

But this year, I’m on an absolute tear. Pretty sure I’m going to crush my goal with months to spare.

There’s a simple reason for this: during the cold weather months, when it’s too cold to walk outside, I use the treadmill for an hour most weekday mornings. Up until January, I spent that time watching TV series on my tablet – favorite sitcoms from bygone eras. First Scrubs, then Cheers, followed by Newhart. But then I had an epiphany: I could read on my Kindle instead. An extra hour a day makes a huge difference, especially when I also read at lunchtime and before bed (though this often ends with my Kindle slipping from my grasp and bonking me in the face as I nod off).

My timing was damn near perfect, because not more than a week after switching up my routine, Newhart was yanked from streaming. I was midway through Season 4. That’s okay; I know how it ends.

(Brilliantly.)

This torrid (for me) pace won’t continue indefinitely. The weather is warming up, and once it does, I’ll be back to walking outside, which I miss. But come October or so, those temperatures are going to dip again, and I’ll find myself back on the treadmill. I figure I’ll easily reach 30 books in 2025, which will be way more than I’ve ever read in a year.

I could update my goal, but I’d rather have the satisfaction of obliterating my original reading forecast. Ego boosts are hard enough to come by these days.

Do you and your partner enjoy candlelight dinners? If you participate in the Goodreads challenge, what is your goal? How many books do you average per year?


61 responses to “Cheese crushes Cybertruck, film at eleven.”

  1. I don’t think we’ve ever had a candlelight dinner.🤷‍♀️

    I read whenever I have a spare minute and set goals in my Kindle app. I’m currently at 59 books of my 125 book goal for 2025. (Retirement means having plenty of spare minutes.)

    I’m proud of Wisconsin for not letting Musk succeed in his blatant attempt to buy the election.

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    1. Holy cow. You’re at 59 books already?! That’s even more than Rivergirl. It would take me three years (pre-treadmill) to reach that number!

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  2. glad you weren’t involved in any accidents, love reading, hated commuting, damn proud of Wisconsin, love candlelight dinners, working on a new partner – status updates to be posted.

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    1. Ooh, new partner?! SPILL IT!!!

      I mean, of course, feel free to share details as you see fit.

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      1. on the hunt, will keep you posted –

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  3. Boyfriend John has candles sometimes at his house and even in the camper. He’s not a romantic at all, so it’s surprising when he drags them out. I used to read way more than I do now; with house and yard upkeep, plus walking and being out and about, I don’t have much time during the day. I read at least 12 books a year (Book Club) and usually a couple more during the month so perhaps 36 or so? Glad that WI sent EM a message! I despise that guy.

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    1. We do light candles a lot, but usually when we’re playing cards or for general ambience. To actually have them burning at dinnertime was a novelty!

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  4. After Tuesday’s news, I told my wife that I want to move to Wisconsin now. Love the courage Mark. And yes, let’s keep the momentum going!

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    1. You’re welcome anytime, Brian! And no, you don’t have to become a Packers fan.

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      1. When I saw the Wisconsin election results, I forgave the packers for trying to get rid of the Tush Push! Ha ha!

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  5. I might kill for a piece of cheese that big…it would have to be amazing cheese however. I love the spontaneity of the dinner 🙂

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    1. We saw some wheels of cheese at the state fair last year that were approaching that size!

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  6. There may have been a candlelit dinner many years ago… but it has completely faded from my memory. What a lovely surprise. Way to go, Tara!

    Also, way to go, Wisconsin! The rest of the country was holding our collective breath, and you came through big time! Thank you!

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    1. I’m glad we were able to serve as an example for the rest of the country, and I hope MAGA gets the message!

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  7. OMG! Tara is amazing! I love her! (Furiously taking notes for future romantic involvement.)

    Thumbs down on that commute. What a pain in the rump! Time to move!!

    Good for you on the reading challenge. I need to quit reading so much and write more. I’m on track to easily surpass my goal of 100. … Unless I stall out. I’m currently at 44.

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    1. Haha. We are NOT moving again. I’ll keep saying that until I’m blue in the face (or until we cross the Michigan state line, whichever comes first).

      I can’t believe how many of you have such lofty reading goals. I feel silly for bragging over my 11 to date!

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      1. NO! I think your goal and having so many reads to date is fantastic! I’ve gone months before with no reads at all. I can boast and say I’ll hit that 100 easy, but I know how life is. I’ll be lucky to hit 100. Just keep reading … and write more!

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      2. Thank you! You’re right: at least I’m consistent (even if that’s consistently slow).

        Write more in my novel or more blog posts?

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      3. Possibly both! But I was referring to your novel. I’m ready for the next one!!

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  8. A no special occasion, goat cheese fritter, candlelight dinner? You must be doing something right. 😉
    As you know, I’m one of those annoying prolific readers. I’m currently 17 books ahead of schedule, 55 read out of a 150 goal. But to be fair, I didn’t always have the time to do that. Retirement has considerably upped my numbers.
    😉

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    1. I wrote this with you in mind. Imagine my surprise to learn Linda Lou’s Life has even you beat (59 YTD). You guys are freaks of nature, I swear! Well, that and retirees.

      The goat cheese fritters were amazeballs! Not surprisingly, the best part of the salad.

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      1. She may be 4 ahead of me right now, but my goal is 25 higher. Not that I’m counting…
        🤣

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      2. Ooh, catfight! Let me know if any hair-pulling happens.

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  9. Mark Thomas!!! We fell victim to the season 4 yank of “Newhart” too! What a shock for we, the Larry, Darryl and the other Darryl fans. 😜

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    1. I know! I still would have watched Larry, Daryl, and Daryl at odd times here and there. I really wanted to see that classic series finale again!

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      1. Same! Same! 😜

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  10. This was Wisconsin’s time to do it right and they did! WhooHoo! There’s hope in those curds & whey. Musk ain’t the Big Cheese…

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    1. He looked like such a dork in that cheesehead hat. I mean, to be fair, most people look like dorks in that cheesehead hat (present company included). But he just looked extra dorkier.

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      1. ‘Extra dorkier’ – now that’s a term to be considered for future use! 🙂

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  11. No to.canflelight dinners. My husband doesn’t believe in mood lighting. He also frequently takes his phone out at restaurants to use the flashlight.pre pandemic I read 50 books a year. I’m now averaging 120….I’ve read 42 towards my goal of 110.

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    1. Doesn’t believe in mood lighting?! That’s my whole schtick! What would he think of my lava lamps and lighted beer signs and salt lamps and other unique lighting?

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      1. He might like those, as long as there were a 100 watt flood light nearby

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  12. Yay, Wisconsin!!!

    That meal sounds heavenly. I haven’t cooked a meal like that (unless we have company) in ages. Way to go, Tara!

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    1. It meant the world to me that she planned all that. Good to know that the romance isn’t dead even after all these years!

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  13. I did a happy dance when I heard about the results of the Wisconsin election!

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    1. Literally the first thing I did when I woke up Wednesday morning was check my phone. (I had no idea the race had been called at 9:30 the night before; I could have saved myself a half-sleepless night!)

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  14. Himself & I have never had a candlelit dinner. This may be because no sooner did he move in with me than he turned my dining table into his desk and we ate on our laps, so candles can be tricky to balance 😉 I’m a fan of eating at the table and like all the dressing the table stuff, but downsizing and that kind of lifestyle do not go together. We no longer have the dining table so Himself is having to make do with my old bureau and a trunk!

    I always set a Goodreads goal of 52. I used to read (lots) more, but I’m generally there or thereabouts most years now.

    A huge congrats on your election result. It was quite some win and, one can but hope, a forerunner of good things to come.

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    1. We made do without a true dining room table our first six months in Wisconsin and never really missed it. Let’s just say we are pros at balancing plates on our knees and/or using TV trays!

      I like your goal of 52. That’s a great way to keep track of your weekly reading.

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      1. I keep my Kindle on my side table in the living room. Himself has stuff he likes to watch on TV that I have no interest in, so it’s always on hand for those opportunities. When I go for a medical appointment, I have the app on my phone in the event I forget to pick up my Kindle, so all that waiting time can be usefully spent. It’s surprising how much reading time it all adds up to.

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      2. This is why I don’t mind taking my car in for an oil change or ending up in some other waiting room. I always take advantage of the extra time and spend it reading!

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  15. Aw, very sweet of Tara! We’re used to having jammed freeways–I’m grateful that all the traffic apps exist now. Back when I first got to LA, all I had was news radio and the Thomas Guide to try and figure out the best route home. You never knew whether a freeway was actually closed or if the traffic would clear up.

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    1. Your traffic jams are legendary! It was nearly as bad in the Bay Area. Question, though: when you check your app and take a detour because of a backup, isn’t everyone else doing the same thing? And doesn’t that then shift the backup to the new route?

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      1. Sometimes–but you would be surprised at how many people refuse to change a bad route, even when minimal research shows a much better one. MURICA!

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      2. And I thought I was stubborn!

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  16. Oh, this post resonated with me on many levels. Poor losers – you said that so well. And I’m laughing about your middle name quip. Blowing the doors off your goal? So good. Take the ego boost and run!!

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    1. “Poor losers” is me holding my tongue because this is a (mostly) family friendly blog!

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  17. Can’t say I’ver done a candlelight dinner, but one time we had friends over for game night and the power went out (thankfully for a short period of time) so it was candle light gamenight 😁

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    1. Even if it happened on a technicality, I’d say that counts! We have smart bulbs in our dining room lamp and are forever having Alexa adjust the brightness and color based on our mood. And to think that I used to go to the trouble of hardwiring dimmer switches. I think this is a future post actually!

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  18. Rigged? Good lord that’s a tired excuse. Can’t they invent something new? I was pleased to hear of the Supreme Court win across the border.
    Well done, Tara! We occasionally have candlelit dinners, whether for an anniversary or romantic holiday or even with dinner guests at home, but sometimes we let a restaurant light the candles, like we did last night before going to see a Classic Albums Live concert of U2’s The Joshua Tree. Have you heard of this concert series? Given your love of music, methinks you should look into it. I’m getting ready to suggest to my brother that he head to Florida in September for the Led Zeppelin Classic Albums Live concert.
    Haha – I, too, have nearly dropped my Kindle while falling asleep. Too bad the reading challenge doesn’t let you count blog reading. I mean, that’s reading, too! I have never actually counted how many books I read in a given time period. I’m pretty much a bedtime-only reader, so I’m sure the count is low. I’d love to read more, but, you know… life. (Plus, daytime reading makes me super drowsy.)

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    1. No, I am not familiar with that concert series…but if U2 and Led Zeppelin are representative, sign me up! I’ll check it out.

      I’m surprised daytime reading makes you drowsy. Man, if I was similarly affected, walking on the treadmill could turn into a disaster!

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  19. Yes to your “the sorriest bunch of poor sport losers” assessment.

    Yes to occasional candlelight dinners at the dining room table.

    Not on Goodreads. I read slowly so my reading goal is 2 books per month.

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    1. Ha. Two books per month is more than I read in a typical year!

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  20. I’m pretty sure I average about 1 book per year 😬… something I probably shouldn’t admit. I don’t know; it’s just never really been my thing. I can read blog posts all day long, but hand me a book and it will sit there unopened.

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    1. Well, if you make No Time for Kings your one book for 2025, I won’t give you any grief at all! 🙂

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  22. Your Wisconsin victory made news all the way down here in Australia 💪💪💪

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    1. Oh, wow. Just goes to show how much was at stake in an otherwise normal judicial election!

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