The Waiting is the Hardest Part

Now that it’s May, I can say we will be moving to South Dakota next month.


I’m pretty excited and anxious to get out there. Right now it feels like we’re living in limbo, standing on the precipice of a brand new life while still going about the daily business of living this current one. Our whole world changes next month and, like the late, great Tom Petty said, the waiting is the hardest part.

My only real trepidation has to do with the fact that we have no idea where we’ll be living yet. It’s hard to look for an apartment long distance when you still have 50+ days to go. I figure by the end of the month we’ll start searching in earnest; our plan is to have a few places lined up and start checking them out the day after we get there. We’ve got six nights booked in a motel and we can always extend that if necessary. I’m more of a planner than Tara so doing it this way makes me nervous, but I’m sure it will all work out.

Also, saying goodbye will be tough. I don’t want to downplay that. It’s nice having family so close by. At the same time, I did live a couple of states away from my folks for a nine-year stretch, and the world did not implode. My brother’s lived far away for a lot longer than that. Leaving Audrey behind will also be hard, but the transition will be a bit easier given that she has already moved out. She wrote us a very heartfelt, touching letter the other day expressing how thankful she is for our love and guidance these past four years. She’s a good kid and we’ll miss her. If she ever changes her mind about coming out to South Dakota with us, she will forever be welcome!

Well, forever is a mighty long time. But I’d say up until 27 or so, lol.

It’s back to reality today after a nice, long weekend, but I don’t mind. Like I said: I’m too anxious at this point to get going. By the way, here’s a pro tip: if you ever go to the Astoria Crab, Seafood & Wine Festival, by all means do it on Sunday. The crowds were about half the size we are used to, so instead of being jammed into the convention center like a can of  sardines (fitting analogy though that is), we were able to move about freely. And with the festival shutting down in a couple of hours by the time we got there, the vendors were willing to wheel and deal. Tara bought two cases of her favorite peanut butter and saved $1 a jar. Score!

Also, I cannot say enough good things about the Sou’wester Lodge. Here’s the trailer we stayed in:


And the lodge itself:


It’s just a great, relaxing getaway.

This was our last major trip before we move. Here’s what our Farewell Tour checklist looks like as of this morning:

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With only seven weekends left in the PNW, and four of them booked up, I don’t think we’ll be able to cross every item off that list. A couple more, sure. But places like the zoo and Indian Heaven Wilderness are looking less likely. Still, I like the progress we’ve made.

Countdown: 52 Days

6 thoughts on “The Waiting is the Hardest Part

  1. I was so in love with a girl in college from South Dakota. Almost 50 years ago now. She was so cute and bubbly and delightful and had a 442 Road Runner Plymouth. She dumped me. Well good for her and wise as I had decades of difficulty before I got sober 16 years ago. As you know I am a republican but in 1972 I did campaigned hard for a man for president from South Dakota, George McGovern. I just believed in him and the possibilities for a new and better world he represented.I saw him speak at a rally at the student center at the University of Miami. The union member traditional democrats did not like the hippie youth and students. Things were tense. I still recall that peculiar smell in the air and smoke and seemed more dollars and change came out of the donation buckets than went in. Most folks don’t know he was an ordained Methodist minister and lost his daughter to drug addiction. Wish you all the success. I hear there’s blizzards in SD (not the kind from Dairy Queen).


  2. Mark, I can totally understand your concern about finding an apartment before moving because it’s the same for me. This is why I started looking for areas (for the past two months) I want to live in and around Manhattan, beforehand. I have a ton of PTO, so I’m taking a whole week at the end of May into June to go into NYC for two days to look at apartment locations. I’m like you, I’m a planner. But I also know that sometimes (oftentimes) things happen last minute that end up being perfect.

    Since last year, when I made the choice to move back to NYC, I’ve always sensed that everything will work out exactly as it should, exactly when I needed it.

    Even though I can’t wait to leave Philly, I know what you mean, I too will miss certain people. But NYC is not that far, so they’ll be coming up to visit a lot.

    Your recent getaway looked and sounded great!


    1. The distance between Philly and NYC is a lot closer than the difference between Portland and Rapid City, that’s for sure. But we’ll have a house – eventually – and I’m sure we will welcome visitors.

      Can’t wait to hear about your moving adventures!


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