On Thanksgiving Day, my friend Heidi wrote, My favorite time of year is getting to see what everyone is making and how they’re setting their table.

I had to laugh.

Heidi’s table looked gorgeous. Like a page out of Martha Stewart Living. There were candles and placemats and fancy harvest-themed decorations. Our T-Day was decidedly less upscale.

For starters, we didn’t even have a table. (Strike that; we have a table. But it mostly serves as a receptacle for mail and other assorted paperwork.) We ate our turkey etc. on TV trays in the basement while watching Planes, Trains & Automobiles.

I should mention that in all the years hosting, we were never quite so casual, though one year we did use paper plates and plastic utensils to make cleanup easier. But, these days it’s just the two of us. Why bother? I did idly mention to Tara possibly eating at the dining room table, but she just kinda shrugged her shoulders and that was the end of that.

The truth is, we never eat supper at the dining room table unless we have guests. Most nights our plates are balanced on our laps or, if the meal requires a knife, served on those TV trays, while we watch The Amazing Race or Kitchen Nightmares or something. Is this wrong? My parents were kind of aghast when they learned of our dining habits, but what’s the point, really? When I was raising my kids, I always insisted we have sit-down dinners at the dining room table. But once they flew the coop, the Beaver Cleaver lifestyle evolved into more of an Al Bundy-like existence. After a long day at work, we just want to kick back. Hand down the pants? Don’t judge.

And while I joked about the table collecting paperwork (which is true), we do use it for eating meals, too. Breakfast and lunch. But the only time it gets used after 5 p.m. is Saturday nights when we’re playing cards. Even then, we’re only using it for drinks, and to prop up the cribbage board.


It’s been a good holiday weekend, but like the rapper, Too Short. It’s amazing how quickly four days fly by. Friday was supposed to be relaxing, but I spent much of it packing up the harvest decorations and moving all our Christmas bins indoors. I did fire up the wood stove just to test it out. Took a bit of trial and error, as I had no idea there were three dampers, but my smoke detector let me know in no uncertain terms something was amiss. Oops.

I will say it’s awfully efficient. Warmed the basement up from 63º to 70º in no time. And for those of you wondering, a wood stove is a freestanding, self-contained metal box with doors. A fireplace is open. While you can’t beat the ambience of the latter, it’s hard to argue with the EPA: wood stoves are 50% more energy efficient, create less pollution, and use 1/3 less wood for heat while providing more warmth.

Saturday, we finished hanging the rest of the outdoor lights, and then moved inside. Put up the tree and about seven bins worth of holiday decor. Good hell, we have a lot of shit. And then, right on cue, we woke up to snow this morning.

Other than a dusting on Halloween, this was our first decent snowfall of the season. Nothing major; it’s still coming down, but we’re not expecting more than 2″ or so. Just enough to get us in the holiday spirit.

By the way, I’ll never get tired of that view. Sure wish I was working from home tomorrow to enjoy it from my desk, instead of schlepping into the office. Schlepping is overrated.

Also, my town has a thing for cows. Seven life-size replicas representing each of the major dairy breeds were placed around the streets this month. I find that pretty moo-ving.

Is your Thanksgiving formal or casual? Do you ever use TV trays? What is your town known for, and does it celebrate that heritage with statues or artwork?


55 responses to “Martha Stewart doesn’t live here anymore.”

  1. My brother’s Thanksgiving (where I went this year) is more formal whereas mine would be more like yours, but with the Great British Baking show on. 🙂 I’m by myself so there is really no motivation to go to the extra work. Lipstick on a pig.

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    1. Fist bump to a fellow Great British Baking Show lover!

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    2. I’ve never seen the Great British Baking Show, but I’ve heard a lot of good things. I hope your Thanksgiving was a good one!

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  2. Our Thanksgiving is formal, in our dining room. This year, I used my grandmother’s Depression Glass dish set. We make a TON of food, even though we only have about a dozen people. My husband loves his leftovers. We do a 16 pound turkey and a separate turkey breast. I admit it’s nice to freeze some for soup and casseroles.

    Our city is known as a Tree City USA, but so are thousands of others in America.

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    1. Come to think of it, ours might be a Tree City USA, too. Trees AND cows. We’re livin’ large out here!

      The best thing about Thanksgiving is the leftovers, so I applaud you for buying a big turkey.

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  3. we had a thanksgiving gathering at one of my daughter’s houses and it was quite a big group so we all sat at a variety of tables, all with silver and napkins but everyone carried their plate and picked a spot. pretty casual and relaxed. at my house I have the same ‘table situation’ as you do, and most often eat somewhere comfy while relaxing and watching a show.

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    1. Back when we hosted, we could never fit everybody at one table, so it was kind of the same setup. There was a card table and a coffee table. Pretty sure those TV trays made an appearance back then, too.

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      1. any flat surface is fair game

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  4. Our Thanksgiving is fairly casual. I don’t do any sort of decorations or table runners, etc. If both kids and their families come, we’re doing good to squeeze all 9 of us around the table. I usually use paper plates and plastic utensils for both Christmas and Thanksgiving but I forgot to buy any this year. However, we still used plastic utensils with our non-paper plates. I don’t think our town is know for anything but I can certainly get behind the cows in your town. I recently realized that as time has gone by, I have pretty much decorated our whole house with cows, LOL.

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    1. I’m udderly on board with cow decorations! And cow puns, apparently. You’ve probably herd them all before, though.

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  5. I always eat on the couch cause I can do whatever I want! Plus my actual dining table is totally too tall for the uncomfortable chairs I have and I get a backache trying to sit there. I constantly contemplate putting a free sign on the table and using that space for something else although I’m not sure what.

    I am actually using a TV tray as I write. Just started a winter puzzle that of course did not fit the tray as I planned but…ingenious me pulled out the nasty and never used wooden cutting board found under my countertop 6 years ago, slapped the edge pieces onto the board and voila- perfection!

    Sumner is known for rhubarb. No, we do not have any rhubarb statues nor do we have rhubarb art that I am aware of. We simply have rhubarb fest in the early summer. I have never seen anyone embracing our rhubarb heritage except to eat pie,

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    1. I guess if you’re known for a food, a festival is a better idea than a statue. I doubt a giant rhubarb would be much of a draw…and even worse, people might mistake it for celery. Are you a fan of rhubarb? I love it, but other than pie, I never really know what to do with it.

      Sounds like selling your table might be a good idea.

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      1. There is that odd shape connection to celery isn’t there. I have only ever eaten rhubarb once as a kid. Mom made some sort of cooked, mashed rhubarb compote something. Looked a lot like applesauce consistency and was incredibly sour. I hear strawberry rhubarb pie is good.

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      2. I like tart foods, but you definitely need something sweet to counteract rhubarb. That’s why strawberries are often paired with it. And yes, strawberry-rhubarb pie is fantastic!

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  6. Formal. When it was held at my wifes Aunts it was a huge walk up potluck…at my in-laws a simple sit down with a game of scatergories after the meal. I only never eat at the table if my wife is working. Otherwise breakfast, lunch, dinner, games and arts & crafts are done on the dinibg table.

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    1. Love the Scattergories tradition. I’ve only played once in my life, but it was a lot of fun.

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  7. TV trays? Nope. Most of the time it’s dinner at the table. With cloth napkins. For Thanksgiving, it was dinner for 15 outside with chair covers, white tablecloths, cloth napkins, silverware, table runners, and candles. Gotta do justice to spouse’s excellent food.

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    1. Eating outside definitely wasn’t an option for us, but I’m down for that when the weather is nice (and the bugs aren’t too bad).

      Come to think of it, that’s an awfully short window…

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      1. October 15th to October 20th.

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  8. I’m team table for eating dinner, though if it’s just the two of us we use the less formal kitchen table. Personally I despise having the television on during meals but my husband can’t be without it so I suffer through old westerns more often that not.
    Your backyard snow view is lovely… even without a cow.

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    1. The fact that we are so casual about dinners at home makes us appreciate going out even more. Look, babe! We’re sitting at an actual table! What a novelty!

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      1. I don’t mind having a sandwich for lunch on the couch while I read, but I can’t do a full fledged meal. It just feels wrong…

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  9. Good grief. I don’t have regular electricity and my oven is the size of a shoebox, and I still managed a more formal meal than on a TV tray. We can fit one Cornish game hen in our oven, and we use the only dishes we own, but we sit at the table for the meal and talk about our immanent viewing of the BIg Lebowski, our Thanksgiving tradition. That we save for after the meal! 😛

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    1. Ha. To each their own, I guess. I’m glad you guys can make it work, even in very cramped quarters!

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  10. I usually eat at the table and drink until I’m under the table, where I keep a pillow so I can sleep it off in Southern Comfort. The downside is that I have to watch my head when I get up, because the ceiling inexplicably gets much lower overnight.

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    1. Pillow under the table? You’d get along very well with George Costanza!

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  11. Love to eat in front of my television! But I have restricted myself to my morning breakfast! I have created that luxury, since the rest of the day is busy and all meals happen on my dining table!

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    1. Funny how I use the fancy table for the most casual meals. I think I have this whole thing backwards.

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  12. Oh, that view is so beautiful. I can see why you’d never tire of it. And cows – that seems so Wisconsin! Isn’t Thanksgiving the holiday with the most kitchen injuries? I’d say as long as you get it done safely, eat it wherever you want! Looks like you put the potato masher to good use! Happy Thanksgiving, Mark!

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    1. I’m pretty sure when we were sharing what we were thankful for, the potato masher was near the top of my list. Hope you had a great holiday, Wynne!

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  13. I lost my dining table to Himself, as it’s now firmly his desk. When we first moved here he liked the idea of us eating at the table – it happened precisely once… 😀

    We don’t have TV tables though, so he uses his “desk” and I juggle the plate or bowl and try not to spill anything while he gives me the side eye. Cheeky so-and-so!

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    1. Better to turn a dining table into a desk than a repository for junk, I suppose!

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  14. Is your Thanksgiving formal or casual? With just the two of us it was casual but we did sit in the dining room with a lit candle on the table, so formal-ish

    Do you ever use TV trays? No, for no reason I can think of other than we don’t do it

    What is your town known for, and does it celebrate that heritage with statues or artwork? This are is known for bicycles, celebrated with statues and artwork

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    1. Ahh, yes…the Wright brothers were all about bicycles before they got the knack to go airborne!

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  15. You already know how I feel about your Thanksgiving. PERFECTION.

    We don’t use TV trays; instead, we use the coffee table for almost every meal. Unless we have company, then it’s the dining room table.

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    1. You know, we talk about getting a coffee table sometimes. We haven’t had one in years, but when we did, it pretty much served the same purpose as the dining room table (collecting junk), so it just feels like overkill at this point.

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  16. Is your Thanksgiving formal or casual?

    This year, definitely casual. Just hubby and me and our Thanksgiving dinner from Costco (which was actually quite good). I guess I miss the hub-bub, but I also love our nest.

    Do you ever use TV trays?

    I have one, hubby does not. He eats like a barbarian from the coffee table.

    What is your town known for, and does it celebrate that heritage with statues or artwork?

    We live in a SoCal coastal community with a rich Navel history. There is a gawd-awful statue on the waterfront that is a giant depiction of the “famous” V-Day kiss between a Navy guy and a nurse. I think it’s awful but tourists seem to love it.

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    1. I know that exact statue, because I follow a guy on IG who moved out there for a couple of years and once posted a pic of he and his wife replicating the kiss…as I’m sure many people do.

      I’m not surprised your Costco dinner was good. Their food is usually surprisingly top-notch.

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  17. It was just me for Thanksgiving this year and I was in the middle of a Zom 100: Bucketlist of the Dead marathon, so I held my plate in my hands while sitting in front of the TV. I used to have TV Trays. Need to get a couple. Before I knew about Zom 100 I had planned to set a nice place setting for one on my new table in front of the window. I already have TV stuff lined up for Christmas Day so hopefully I can get a TV Tray before then.

    Your snowy view is absolutely lovely!!!!!!

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    1. Ooh, zombies for Thanksgiving? That’s an interesting twist on tradition. I like it! I’ve always enjoyed the New Year’s Day Twilight Zone marathons myself.

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  18. Ah, I see you got the same weather system we got, only ours was a bit less. We didn’t have to shovel. We did the “wait and let Mother Nature take care of her own mess” thing (for anyone reading this who doesn’t know about snow, I mean that the sun eventually melted it). We’ve only done Thanksgiving on our own a couple of times – I think we used the dining room table. But I’ll bet that if we did it every year, we might migrate to the living room.

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    1. We debated waiting to let Mother Nature take care of the mess in the driveway, but she only got it halfway melted and the hour was getting late, so I decided to shovel to ensure a non-slippery driveway heading out to work the next morning. It was mostly slush at that point (though two days later, we still have plenty of snow on the grass).

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      1. No way, man! Just flip your driveway switch! For the sake of all of us who wish we had a heated driveway, don’t waste that amazing feature!!

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      2. I think we have to establish a benchmark. Like, minimum of 3″ or so? Or maybe it’s more of a laziness benchmark!

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  19. We almost always eat at our dining room table for dinner, but the island for breakfast or lunch.

    I don’t go overboard decorating like Martha anymore—-it’s exhausting!

    We actually joked about getting 12 tv trays for next Thanksgiving! 🫣😂

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    1. If I had an island, I would totally eat there. Tara and I talked about adding one to our Rapid City house, but with our current kitchen layout, it just wouldn’t work.

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  20. Disappointed as usual that there isn’t a guide as to what’s on your plate… Looks like you may have taken the idea of chilling for the holidays too literally but glad you had a great one!

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    1. I should have listed what we ate! Clockwise from top: shrimp scampi, lime Jell-O, buttered toast, a chicken wing, marshmallow, and split pea soup. Not a traditional Thanksgiving meal, but a delicious one!

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      1. Wow, that’s quite a plate! Jello doesn’t look very green… The marshmallow had me googling as I wondered if it was the same fluffy stuff we have in the UK … and it is, although we only eat it as candy. But food of the ancient Egyptians, who knew! https://candyusa.com/marshmallows/

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  21. Holidays definitely evolve. When the kids were young, we, too, stuck to a routine to make things a little more formal. now, there’s a lot more flexibility, and we often wing it, lol.

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    1. One of the great things about growing up is molding holidays to shape your own personal vision.

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  22. I too was always raised eating dinner at the table. And I too now always eat dinner in front of the TV. Turns out it’s really the only time of day my husband’s and my schedules align well enough to allow us to enjoy a show together.

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